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May 7, 2012

This is me.

In continuation of a trend started over at the great blog CT Working Moms in which one blogger shared an open and honest account of her parenting decisions, I share with you some of mine…

This is me:

1. Both my babies started full-time daycare before the age of 2 months old.  It was hard, but not as hard as some may think. 

2. I’ve never cried dropping my children off to daycare.  I’ve also never called to check on them while they are there. It doesn’t mean I don’t love them, just that I’m confident that everything is fine – and if it isn’t, someone will call me.

3.  We rear-face car seats until 2 despite the fact that my youngest is the size of most 3 year olds and my nearly 6-year-old is still in a regular car seat with no plans to change.

4. I’ve told the kids that they won’t be sitting in the front until they are driving.  I’ve also told them no lip-kissing until they are married.  But, I might budge on that one…slightly.

5.  I haven’t yet decided if I want to be open or honest with my children about my drug/alcohol/sex history.

6.  My two toddlers still have milk as part of their bed time routine.  Its out of a sippy cup, but they still call it their ‘baba’.  It doesn’t bother me.

7.  We cloth diaper and use disposable diapers.  I made my own baby food and used plenty of jar food.  We did a little BLW and a little baby food purees.  I buy plenty of whole organic foods, and plenty of cheese-its/goldfish/fill in the blank with some other processed snack. Sometimes I use all natural baby products and sometimes I just use whatever is on hand. 

9. As a chubby mom, I wonder if people judge me for having a chubby baby.

10. I never use shopping cart covers and sometimes the baby eats off the table in restaurants.  Its better than a thrown and shattered plate.  Which I learned the hard way.

11. There aren’t many things I won’t do solo with my 3 children.  Kids play places, going out to eat, going to the grocery store? No problem.

12. I don’t give my kids juice but they do have candy on occasion.

13. We use the words ‘penis’ and ‘vagina’ and I can’t stand pet names for either.

14.  We are bare-minimalists on babyproofing.  No gates on the stairs, no locks on the toilet, no doorknob thingies.

15.  I love baby/toddler/kidwearing.  Love it, love it, love it.  And I don’t fully understand why more parents don’t utilize it.

16. Sometimes I side with my children over my wife. I will agree with whomever is right.

17.  I don’t yell at my kids.  I’ve never come across a situation in which it would be helpful or productive to do so.

18.  I can’t decide where I land on the Great Vaccine Debate.  It’s a non-issue for me since I had foster babies and everything was mandated.  But still.

19.  We start toilet-introducing by a year (even younger for Rosebud).  But the diaperless baby thing is still a little much for me.

20.  Despite the financial bummer, I’d rather use a paid babysitter than family.  One reason is that I don’t feel guilty or like I’ve put someone out, but also, I have more confience that a paid sitter will follow my instructions.

So that’s a glimpse into me.  Some agree with my decisions and others may disagree or even judge, but at the end of the day I am left with all that matters…the happy and healthy family I love to pieces.