Keep the Faith

I had never met her, never spoken with her, but I just knew.  Based in nothing but faith, I knew that she was a good person.  A person who laughed, and struggled, and dreamed, and loved her children. 

Yesterday I came face to face with what I’ve known all along when I met my children’s mother.

I couldn’t eat a thing that morning…my stomach was full of nerves and I was too busy deciding what in the world you are supposed to wear  for this type of thing.  A and I drove there together hardly talking – mostly trying to brainstorm things to talk about at the meeting.  Why oh why couldn’t I come up with anything good??  

Through the glass doors of the building, I saw her before she saw me.  I recognized her instantly from the shape of Sprout’s face, Rosebud’s eyes, and Daisy’s nose.  Beautiful, like they are.

We walked in and she greeted us with a big smile.  In that instant, my nerves disappeared.  It no longer felt like two worlds were colliding.  It didn’t feel strange or uncomfortable.  It felt right.  After all this time – I was right.

She was easy to talk to, kind, respectful and appreciative.  We hit it off even.  We laughed about Rosebud’s silly escapades at dance class and shared pride in Sprout’s school accomplishments.  We smiled the same smile as we talked about chubby Daisy baby and that sweet twinkle in her eye.  She talked about how their personalities were similar and different to their siblings.  How when Sprout does this, it’s so very similar to that brother and how Rosebud’s spunk surely comes from this family member.  She showed us pictures of the people Sprout still often talks about.  My knowledge of the three children I live with every day became richer and deeper.  Such a gift.  Just 3 moms, enjoying the chance to talk about their kids.

The meeting ended just as naturally as it started.  She thanked us – for everything.  We thanked her – for everything.  And we hugged.

14 Responses to “Keep the Faith”

  1. Oh, I am thrilled that it was such a great meeting. You all deserved it.

  2. Wow. Seems like it could not have gone better. Happy for you!

  3. Awww! I’m tearing up a little at work just reading this. This was a brave thing to do. And it seems to have been just the right thing for your family. It must be so great for your kids to have their two separate worlds come together like this.

  4. You’ve got me all choked up. I hope one day we can meet MeMa’s birth mom.

  5. I am so glad that the meeting went well. I am breathing a sigh of relief for you.

  6. I have been anxiously awaiting this post. I am so glad it went well and that it was smooth from the beginning. Great job!

  7. I am so glad it went well! Definitely a testament to the relationship you have built with her through your thoughtful care of Sprout, Rosebud, and Daisy.

  8. Another mama tearing up at work…wow. So happy for your family. Did you and A talk to Sprout about it yet or do you plan to?

  9. So, so, so glad that it went so well!

  10. I am so happy you got to have that experience! It’s wonderful when these meetings go well. It really helps when the case moves forward, in either direction, knowing that the other mom is okay. What did Sprout say about it?

  11. That’s just beautiful.

  12. I’m so glad that it went well!

  13. I’m not one to get teared up over blog posts very often, but this one really got to me. Your sensitive portrayal of three people who love these children so much… There really is no easy way out of this, for anyone. It was a powerful glimpse of the awareness you all live with every single day. So, so hard. I didn’t think I could respect you and A any more than I already did, but.. yeah. You guys are really amazing. And it sounds like the kids’ birth mom is too.

    I’m really glad you all had such a wonderful meeting to reinforce everything you already believed. I hope it feels good to Sprout, too, whenever and however you choose to share it with him.


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