I noticed early on that it was very powerful to say to Sprout, “I am glad you are here.” I told him over and over and over again – sometimes 10 or 20 times a day. “I’m glad you are here.” “I’m so happy to know you.” “You are welcome here.”
For the first 6 to 9 months, he would respond by shouting “Don’t say that!” or “I aint tryin’ to hear you!” But regardless of his words, his voice would soften and the tantrums would calm.
After that he would mostly ignore me or respond with an oh-so-pleasant eye roll and “I kno-wah. You said that before.”
Last night I was tucking him into bed and whispered into his ear the things I always do. “You are important. You are kind. You are sunshine. I’m glad you are here.”
I thought he was drifting off to sleep. I thought he wasnt really listening. But as I made my way to the door I heard a little “mommy?” I turned to find his bright eyes and awesome smile. “I like it when you say that. Do it again?”
“Oh sweetheart. I’m so glad you are here.”