As I’ve mentioned before, A and I consider ourselves attachment parents and for us, part of that parenting style included co-sleeping (sleeping in the same room) with our infants. We co-slept with Rosebud for 12 months at which point it was no longer allowed by foster regulations. As much as I loved having her near and enjoyed the benefits (especially for my frequent night-waker), it was really kinda nice to have our space back when we transitioned Rosebud to her own room.
And that lasted all of a week until Daisy joined us!
Back to cosleeping it was. There was no question about it – we wouldn’t be comfortable with the tiny little baby being anywhere but right by our side. And it was just as successful for Daisy as it was for Rosebud. The night feedings were a breeze and I loved falling asleep to the tiny grunts and sighs of my sleeping newborn.
But then the months passed and Daisy wasn’t really a newborn any more. She was big and happy and attached. And we, as a couple, were starting to feel the effects of a year and a half without any space to call our own. So we made the tough decision to transition Daisy out of our room. A decision that we were able to come to much quicker with Daisy than we were with Rosebud since it wasn’t into a room by herself – but into a room with her sister.
We’re still working out the kinks of the transition, specifically bed time and Daisy’s still frequent night wakings, but overall its been easier than we expected.
I miss her less than I anticipated I would.
Maybe its the fact that A and I can once again talk and laugh until all hours of the night? Or that we can actually turn on a light when we head to bed? Or that we are able to(::ahem::) act on an impulse whenever it strikes? I don’t regret our co-sleeping decisions one bit but it’s also nice to be able to reclaim an adult space in our kid-centric life.
In honor of the change, we treated ourselves to our first ever big girl set of bedroom furniture. It makes me feel all grown up!
Here’s the before (except picture a crib where the dresser is):
And the after:
Adults do live here!