Archive for April, 2011

April 29, 2011

At least he sets his sights high

“Mommy, I’m going to be 5 soon and after that I’ll be 6.”

“Yup, that’s right honey.”

“When I’m 6 I won’t have toys anymore.”

“Why is that?”

“Because I’ll be in college and you don’t take toys to college.”

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Maybe we’ve got a chance at beating those stats after all 😉

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April 28, 2011

A prayer for my children

Less that half of former foster youth are employed at 23, and only 3 percent have finished college (compared to 28% of the general population with a BA or higher).

The teen birth rate for girls who’ve been in foster care is more than double the rate of their peers outside the foster care system.

Foster care alumni are 7x more likely to become drug addicted and twice as likely to experience alcoholism. 

The rate of bulimia is seven times higher.

The rate of PTSD among former foster youth is five times that of the general population and, at 21.5%, exceeds the rates for American war veterans.

[stats taken from the Casey National Alumni Survey]

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There is one simple prayer I pray every night, every time I kiss their heads, and on every drive to work.

Please, oh please, let them be 3 less.

Let them pour themselves into their education and be passionate about success.

Let them always feel whole despite their losses.

I pray that they allow themselves to dream never-ending dreams.  Dreams big enough to make up for their peers, brothers and sisters, who are unable to do the same.

Let them know hope and inspiration and determination to their very core.

Let them be strong but may there always be a softness in their strength. 

I pray that I can keep up.  That I am always striving along with them.  That I am deserving and have the skills to support their immense potential. 

Let them know that they deserved to be cherished.  By every teenage fling, employer, friend, and spouse. 

Let them never settle for anything less.

I pray that they may one day have children, but only if it’s their choice to do so. And if it is their choice, I pray that they have children who bring them as much joy as mine do me.

But most of all, I pray with all my heart and with many tears that they may be 3 less.

April 26, 2011

Learning as I go (April Mama Tip)

Background: 

Rosebud is addicted to cheez-its.  I’m not proud of that fact, but I’ve accepted it.  We went through a similar stage with cheerios so I know that this too shall pass.

Parenting Fail:

We had an outing planned to the aquarium.  We’ve been before and the kids love it.  It’s a bit hard scheduling wise since it’s about an hour away, but we make it work.  Before we leave I pack a bunch of snacks (since the key to any outing with 3 small children is lots.of.snacks) including a big baggie filled with enough cheez-its to feed a small army…or get RB through the day.  Just before we enter the aquarium I decide to give RB some of the crackers so she’ll last longer until lunch.  I pull out the bag give her a handful and pat myself on the back for planning ahead.  And that’s where it all falls apart.  I bet some of you more experienced toddler moms know just where this is heading…

Well, since she saw that there was an entire bag, a handful would never do.  In her 1-year-old mind there was absolutely no reason why we shouldn’t just sit there while she eats the whole bag.  Nevermind the jellyfish and sharks and super cool things just around the bend.  All that mattered was cheez-its.  Cue the flopping on the floor, screaming, crying tantrum when mean mommy insisted that the cheez-its were all done.

Parenting Win:

It’s a few weekends later and its time to head to a museum.  This time when I pack the diaper bag, I get a stroke of genius.  It’s all about the little snack bags.  I throw a small handful in 3 of them and into the bag they go.  Now when we get to the museum I hand Rosebud a nice little baggie of a few crackers.  She happily eats them and accepts that when the bag is empty, she’s all done.  Talk about motherhood cloud nine – a quick little fix and it worked!! Horray!

Okay, so I realize that I have no business being so excited about outsmarting a 17 month old, but apparently this is what my life has come to.

April 20, 2011

Protected: Wordless Wednesday (pic password)

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April 19, 2011

Confession

I’ve been having adoption party daydreams. 

Daydreams that might or might not include ponies.

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If this doesn’t work out, it will be an impossibly hard fall.  I may as well enjoy the possibilities now.

April 15, 2011

Protected: It’s still hard

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April 15, 2011

Winners!

Are you getting a free cloth diaper??

Well, if your name is Erathora or Jill, the answer is yes!

Winner #1 was commenter 37 (Erathora):

And #2 was lucky number 19 (Jill):

Sorry for the poor quality of those screen shots.  You actually have no idea how long it took me to get those into this post.  As soon as I hit ‘publish’ I’ll be hanging my head in shame.

On a brighter note, ladies please send me an email (ec371 at aol.com) with your desired mailing address and winner #1, include which diaper you would prefer. 

Thanks to all for participating!!

April 12, 2011

A Breath of Fresh Air

Yesterday we had another meeting with the new social worker.  She seems to be a keeper.  Easy to talk to and easy to trust. 

She told us some interesting things including the fact that the previous social worker doesn’t think mom is aware that we are a same-sex couple.  That he had never actually told her (over the course of a year.and.a.half) and that during visits Sprout mostly talks about me so mom might not have made the connection otherwise.  Uh, WTF? There are lots of things I could say about that, but what it boils down to is a bad situation.  Disrespectful to mom and disrespectful to us. 

But I don’t want to focus on the negative because our meeting was quite nice.  We spent most of the time talking about topics such as open vs. closed adoption and negotiating visitation.  How her supervisors are pushing her to close this case quickly as zero progress has been made on the plan.  And did I mention adoption?! 

*Yes, yes, insert all standard disclaimers here (still a long ways away, bio fathers, bio family, ect)*

But the woman said the ‘A’ word.  I swear it was at least 5 times.

Squee!!

April 8, 2011

Sunny Friday Giveaway!

I love the support and interest you all have shown for my cloth diapering escapades and my love for Kawaii diapers is no secret.  Now I’d like to give you the chance to try them as well!  Dip your toe into the cloth diapering waters for free, or add a new dipe to your stash.

The giveaway includes two options…

1) A new one size snap pocket diaper in a fun (gender neutral!) blue star print:

Includes the waterproof outer cover and 2 microfiber inserts/liners.

2) A new Happy Leak-Free Diaper Cover (with snaps) in pretty light blue:

 Includes the diaper cover and 2 microfiber liners to be used like so:

Size Chart for both 

  • Weight: 8-36 lbs.
  • Rise: 13.5″ – 19.5″
  • Waist: 14″ – 28″

Fun!! Now all you have to do to enter is leave a comment on this post answering the question:

What interests you most about cloth diapering?  Or, if you are already CDing, what do you like most about it?

Two winners will be chosen on April 15th via random number generator.  The first winner will get to choose which of the above they prefer and the second winner will get whichever is left over. 

Rules:

1. Only one entry by question-answering per person.

2. You can get one additional entry for sharing or linking a post from this blog elsewhere.  It doesn’t have to be this post – any one you choose is good.  Just be sure to leave a second comment on this post letting me know that you’ve shared so you get your extra entry.  (ps – if you choose to share something on fa.cebook and we are FB friends, please don’t tag my name to it.  privacy for the kids and all.  please and thank you!)

3. You must be a US resident. Sorry! Though I don’t think I have a large international following 😉

Good luck!

April 7, 2011

Where does he come up with this stuff?

While on our trip this weekend we had a playdate with some friends.  Our friends did a lovely job sharing a big backpack full of toys and my kids were in heaven.  I didn’t realize how much Rosebud was enjoying their toys until we got back to our hotel room and I unpacked the diaper bag. 

And found a book and some toys that were definitely not ours.

Me: “Rosebud, how did these toys get in here?”

Rosebud: “Uh oh”

Despite doing my best work on google, I’ve yet to find a good book on how to teach your toddler not to be a thief.

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Yesterday at school a teacher absent-mindedly put her purse within toddler reach.  Rosebud-the-swiper dashed over there and had her cubby fingers in that purse before I could blink.   But her brother was all over it…

“Rosebud! You don’t never go in a wo-man’s purse! Its dangerous.  You never know what’s in there.”

I have no idea where he learned that, but I’d say those are some valid words to live by.