The Status of Things

My olders have been in care for 15 months 2 weeks and 2 days. 

No progress has been made towards reunification.

For the first time, there is some talk of goal change and transferring files to the permanency department.  Eventually.  Afterall, the case is still young.

There’s also been some talk of that cousin who’d like to adopt all three.  Where was she 15 months 2 weeks and 2 days ago?  And why does she have to live so very far away?

With each phone call everything changes and nothing changes.  We’ll just keep on keeping on.

New friends of ours are adopting their daughter today after becoming her foster parents more than 3 years ago. 

That glimmer of hope is sparked in my heart.  Maybe…just maybe…

6 Comments to “The Status of Things”

  1. The system is crazy, crazy, crazy.

  2. The status of things enrages me! This is absurd. For every single person involved. Period!

    12 months. That’s it. At 12 months and 1 day, if parents fail to get it together, termination should begin. In fact, I was under the impression that that is federal law.

    We were at month 17 before we closed termination, but the process was started at 12. As it should be. Ugh!!! And the cousin. Ummm… no. Just no.

    Prayers for you all. So many prayers.

  3. Per “The Adoption and Safe Families Act (ASFA) requires State agencies to file a petition to terminate parental rights, with certain exceptions, when:4 A child has been in foster care for 15 of the most recent 22 months.”

    Your state fails. Especially because many states (including mine) have opted to put in place a regulation that termination begin and proceed by 15 months. My state actually opts to begin at 12 months.

  4. I think Monica put it best: Your state fails. And it does, on so many different levels. It’s just sad.

  5. I wish you had some clarity – it must be so hard. I’m continually amazed by how well you handle all the unknowns.

  6. I’ve ridden this rollercoaster and I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you! I really wish I could see the fifteen month regulation actually put into play. What’s the point of having it if no one follows it?!?

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