Have you noticed how many parenting books there are out there? I took a class in graduate school and we had to read 30 by the end of the semester. I got two take-aways from that exercise: 1) the qualifications to publish a book are far too lax 2) no wonder parents are confused.
So let me help you narrow it way down with a couple of book recommendations. What these books have in common is that they are nicely aligned with my overall style which I’ve come to define as peaceful parenting with a sense of friendly firmness (check out those alliterations). No yelling, no power-struggling, but no lack of boundaries or consequences either. Or at least that’s the goal, and these books have helped me get there.
On a side note, when I went online to put these two books on hold at my local library for the wife to read, a sidebar popped up with suggestions for other key words I might want to search by. The list included “maternal love”, “promoting attachment”, “teaching kindness” and “empathy” – if I had any doubt I was on the right track before, it’s certainly long gone now.
1) Love Lessons and Limits: A parent’s guide to raising cooperative kids. By Bill Corbett.
This is always the first book I recommend to parents who ask. It’s a quick read, its funny, its real, and it offers concrete suggestions for common problems. Google him and you’ll also find a website, a newsletter, and a limited release TV show for more free resources. If you are in Southern New England you could also have the pleasure of attending of of his free parenting seminars. Its good stuff – for realz.
I’ll start by saying that I’ve read both and they are very similar so don’t bother doing what I did. Also, if you go with Parenting with Love and Logic, get the newest version since they’ve done some editing. These books gave me my parenting voice. My tone, my words, I found them here. They taught me to speak so that my children would listen and, as we all know, that is the first step.
*Here I’ll insert the standard disclaimer about having no affiliation or financial motivation behind these recommendations. I love these books. I love kids. And I love you.*